My family and I work on different levels. First I’d like to say I understand. Accept you do not fit and be good with it as the more you read, grow and learn the less you will fit. I feel like a complete outsider in my family. I’m trying to be a “better” person, and although I may not have any clue what the means, or how to go about doing it, I’m trying. But figuring that out as a teenager can be life-changing. I used to handle it by doing my best to avoid groups where I didn’t fit in right away. How to deal? Don't try to force them to fit into who you want them to be. I'm more nerdy and introverted, less religious, and more open minded compared to my family. 2. I yearned for acceptance, so I spent much of my time trying to be someone I wasn't. I’m 18. Realizing you don't fit in with your family is difficult to handle emotionally. Being mixed-race is only one of the factors that make me different. You have an independent mind. I have learned that its more important to work on being a good person. I have convictions. You state your opinions loud and clear. We don't always fit in with our families as much as we would like to. I live with my father, mother and sister. I ask “what is the truth”. My family (as in parents and siblings) don't talk to me much or spend time with me or tell me about anything that's going on in their lives or in the family. I tend to be more outspoken than my peers, less religious, more bookish, more alternative… Grow in your wisdom and spirituality. They're also passive aggressive in … But as I’ve grown older and started a family and career, it’s become an important part of my values to show up for others, for my friends, family, career, and myself, even when it’s not comfortable for me. They are very insular, very involved with each other, and very apt to causing problems amongst each other if the others don't fit into what they expect of them the instant they expect it. You do fit in with the family of God. To them, different equals bad. I am in the same situation but instead of feelings of depression from this, I’ve accepted that I am always going to be the “black sheep”. Anonymous: Anonymous wrote:I've always felt like the black sheep per se. Be happy with yourself. You don't fit in with the crowd, so you can't sit back and agree with a matter you don't believe in. I neither fit in with them nor do they treat me like a part of the family. Do good things to other people. Subject: I don't fit in with my family at all and I'm stressed out. Of course, my family history does partly define me, but mostly not in the way that those people think. My older relatives who passed away were more accepting and understanding. For me, it translated into a low self-worth, no self-esteem, and reckless behavior. Instead, it defines me as different. Learning what makes you happy is more important than trying to fit someone else’s idea of a successful life. 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